Tuesday, June 4, 2019

Life Lessons and Wargaming: Surround Yourself with Who You Want to Be

Hey Everyone!  Today I wanted to head back to my continuing article series, “Life Lessons and Wargaming”.  The purpose of the article series is to take those lessons we learn over time and how we can apply them to our Wargaming Hobby.  In today's article, I want to talk about how surrounding yourself with the type of hobbyist and person you wish to become is key to accomplishing your goals.

It can be a hard introspective, but the people you hang around with are a reflection of who you currently are as a person, hobbyist, and even as a gamer.  If you are looking to go after a podium at a major event, but your usual club is much more casually oriented then your chances of winning an event isn’t the best it could be.  However, if you find a club or partner who is constantly playing the hardest lists possible then you are increasing your chances of winning significantly. 

By surrounding yourself with people with similar goals, especially those who are farther ahead of you, it will help to put you in the mindset you need to be in in order to grow and accomplish the goals you have set for yourself.  This applies to every aspect of life, work, fitness, and even wargaming.  If you wish to be a better painter then you need to hang out with high-level painters.  If you are looking to increase your weight lifting then you need to work out with people who are stronger than you.  If you are looking to become a better runner then you need to run with people who are running farther than you think is possible.

As the saying goes “If you want to go fast, go alone.  If you want to go far, go together.”.  In the thirty some years I have been on this planet I have found much truth in this saying.  More often than not I tend to choose the go alone and go fast route, but I never get quite as far as when I am working with others on a shared goal.  You may find yourself alone when pursuing your goals, but in this modern age, we are never that far from someone who you can share in the journey.  Whether it is through YouTube, Social Media, or your local community you can find people with similar goals in whatever you are doing. 

This isn’t to say you cannot accomplish your goals alone, but it will likely take longer.  Surround yourself with people who reflect what you want to be and you will accomplish anything.  Likewise surrounding yourself with people who offer excuses or have no ambition will cause you to reflect the same back and find yourself going pretty much nowhere.  Now, this doesn’t mean drop friends like a bad habit because they aren’t helping you towards your goals.  Not all my friends play Warhammer and not all my friends lift, but they all support me and I support them.  You will find many groups of friends in your life and all of them will support you and help you achieve your various goals along the way as you help them.

Don’t be afraid to go alone, but I encourage you all to go together and go farther than you could ever predict.  Happy Hobbying.

Chuck Moore.

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